Newsletter 16: Happy New Year… Already??!!

Newsletter 16: Happy New Year… Already??!!

Well, here it is, the very last day of 2015, and I’m finally going to get this veryImage result for Happy New YOUR Year Imageoverdue newsletter out. It is totally unbelievable to me how my experience of time has changed so much in the last few years… it seems just like yesterday that I was facing this same quandary last year when I was preparing my last newsletter of 2014! And, not only that, but it has been almost 6 months since my last “monthly” newsletter!!

So, Where Have I Been?

I’m not going to apologize for this unintended delay, but I will offer my best explanation. It seems that there are two main reasons for this lapse… the first is that it has nothing to do with the usual “writer’s block” that so many of us run into
when we try to compose this kind of newsletter… actually, it is just the opposite: I have too much information to choose from! And, to make things even more challenging, the “information” that I have available to write from, keeps changing and mutating as my “understanding of reality” keeps expanding.

For example, as most of you know, I have been using Greg Kuhn’s material (based on his books about quantum physics, and the effect it has on our “reality”, and often referred to as the game of “Grow a Greater You”) as the basis of my coaching “philosophy”. Of course, there are many other “tools” in my coaching toolbox (go here for more info), but this has been the “core” of how I coach my clients, most of whom have come to me by way of their interest in taking Greg’s material to the next level. However, during the course of the time that the client and I work together, we inevitably begin to wonder into different elements of “personal growth” that are way outside (beyond?) the intent and expectations inherent in that process. As I explore these “new frontiers”, the “problems” keep morphing and changing in ways that cause me to have to find new and different techniques to move past these “blocks”… it is all continually evolving! Which brings me to reason number two:

Who Knows What’s Best for You?

The second reason for the “gap” between newsletters is that I have been hesitant to move into this “new area” of the coaching relationship, even though I see it as the natural next step in the process. Since almost all my clients come to me via their interest in Greg’s material (and his implied “steps to success”), I find it rather incongruent and out of integrity to take them into areas that are obviously NOT in alignment with that “philosophy”. In other words, would it be fair and ethical to introduce my clients to this “expanded process” when they have not explicitly asked for it?

Sure, I can rationalize it by saying “it’s for their own good” (as if I knew what thatImage result for Why quantum physicistshould or could look like!) but in truth, they are the ones who need to make the request for assistance in that area, or to at least have the ability to make a conscious, informed choice about it. And there is the crux of the problem: how can they make a conscious, informed decision on what they “need” and “want” if they aren’t able to “see” the choices because of where they presently are? If, for example, you (as a mature adult) saw a child playing with a sharp knife or a pair of scissors, you would (justifiably?) remove the “perceived danger” and replace it with a suitable, safer and “more fun” toy (much to the dismay of the child!). Does this same rational carry over to a client/coach relationship? Do I have the right (or maybe even the responsibility) to make that decision for the the client?

Making Mountains from Imagined Mole Hills?

Maybe I’m making too much out of all this, but from my perspective, it seems worthy of more than a casual thought. And, obviously, depending on which way IImage result for thank you quantum physicistresolve the issue, I am also choosing the direction that my coaching practice will be going in the future. At this point, I’m simply playing it be ear, regardless of the client’s original intention for having started in this process, and I’m informing each client about their new choices as they evolve though the process. Sometime in the near future, within the next month or so, I will making a more firm decision on what direction I will moving, and I will do my best to keep you informed. If you are a former client, or a new or perspective client who wants to explore what this all may mean for you, please contact me here on my blog, or by signing up for a free intro session , or by email (see contact info below).

GRACIAS!!

In closing, I’d like to say a big “Thank You” to all my clients, and especially to Greg Kuhn, for having been in my life this past year… knowing, and interacting, withImage result for thank you quantum physicist
a each of you has enriched my life “Beyond Belief”, and there simply are no words that can express the appreciation and gratitude that I hold in my heart for the contribution each of you has made in my life… many Blessings, and much Light and Love to you all in the coming New Year!!

ADDENDUM

As you can see by now, I even blew my “end of year” deadline by a week, but I felt I had to get this one out to you. The reason for this delay is that, after I wrote the first part of this newsletter, I started having many more insights into even newer (and better?) directions to go in with my coaching business… where does it end? Or, maybe it never ends 😉

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ECAP Tip of the Month: One of the biggest pitfalls that I’ve found in this process is to keep looking at the “external evidence” for “proof” that you are making progress toward your goal. I know it may seem counter-intuitive, and maybe even counter-productive, to follow this “rule”, but it is very important to overcome the “habit” of measuring your internal “wellness” by what seems to be happening outside of you. You cannot allow yourself to be dissuaded by the “stories” that come up as an ego-response to temporary (and false) perceptions of “failure”. Stay focused on the end result, and the feelings you will experience when you “get there” , as if you already have it, now… that is what will bring you the results you want (and deserve) in the shortest time possible!!

Contact Info: If you want to contact me, set up a free and confidential intro session, subscribe to my newsletter, or view an archive of past newsletters, and audio files of past teleconferences , you can visit my website at: BeyondBeliefCoaching.com. If you would like to read or comment on this, or past newsletters, or if you want to peruse my other brilliant offerings, you can visit my blog here at Frankly Speaking.

Miscellaneous: I’m not a big proponent of all the hoopla that seems to be so prevalent around all the holidays, but I do like to use the “spirit” of this holy season to remind myself and others that we all have so much to be thankful for. I know that there is still much unneeded suffering and despair in many parts of the world, and that at times it can seem to be a hopeless situation, but I still feel that there is an “answer”, and that it all begins right here, right now, with each of us making a commitment to experience peace and joy in our own internal world. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world!!

Quote of the Week: This New Year’s Eve you can lay the groundwork for continued growth without making any resolutions except one—to let go of the past, connect with yourself, to Wake Up, and be Present.The Enneagram Institute

NAMASTE!!

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Newsletter Intro

Welcome to my first newsletter!

I’ve spent a considerable amount of time pondering what I should (and shouldn’t) include in my first newsletter. There are just so many interesting subjects I would love to explore with you that it seems almost impossible to focus on just one. So, I’ve decided to start out by chatting a bit about my intentions.

A few thoughts…

Over the years, I’ve read numerous blogs and received more than my share of newsletters and, although I initially find them to be quite interesting, I’m always left a bit disappointed in the actual impact they have on my day-to-day life. I mean, how many times can someone promise to disclose the “secret to life” without actually offering anything that elicits any real shift in your reality? Please don’t misunderstand me… I fully respect these authors and do not doubt the sincerity of their intentions or the benefits some readers obtain by applying their suggestions. However, from my own observations, the best way to accomplish change and to experience lasting results is to immerse oneself in the conversation and to actually participate in a journey of self-discovery.

My Intentions

So, my intention is to share my experiences and observations, and to ask questions that will open the reader’s mind to new, unexplored frontiers, which will create, hopefully, fresh insights into what is possible and achievable for them. These newsletters are meant to initiate a conversation that will empower you to find your own truths through introspection and honest self-evaluation. Although I may at times quote other authors or make assertions about what has worked for me, it is only done to draw on those experiences and to point out the benefits others or myself derived from them. It is never meant to be a claim to “knowing” anything you don’t have access to as well. Ultimately, you’ll have to decide what works for you… keep what you like and discard the rest!

In Conclusion

If you’ve read this far, you’ve taken the first step in helping me to fulfill my dream: to create a way to assist others in discovering their innate wisdom and true power. I’m not sure where this journey will take us, but I can promise you that I’ll do my best to make it informative, inspiring, empowering, and, most of all, FUN!

I’ll be using my blog here at Frankly Speaking , to post my newsletters and then copy them here to my website, Beyond Belief Coaching, so that you can find them at either place and have the ability to comment on them (if you feel so inspired) at this blog site. Just as an aside, here at my blog you can find all my old posts that I’ve accumulated over the years… there is a variety of musings, thoughts and personal opinions scattered around.. who knows what you may find!!

Thank you from the deepest part of my heart… and I wish you the very best on your journey! NAMASTE!!

Open for Business!!

Hi, Everyone…

Just wanted to announce the grand opening of my new website… Beyond Belief Coaching!!

For anyone that’s been following my progress here (look through some of my older posts if you’re not up to speed, yet), you all know that this has been a very busy and challenging year. I just finished all my course work for my QSCA training, and I’ll have the certification process finalized in the next week. I wanted to get my website up and running ASAP and it’s finally at the “tell me what you think” stage… so, please visit and look around and let me know what you think… all feedback, comments, and suggestions are welcome!!

I know it looks a little sparse right now, but that will improve over time… I just had to get it rolling, so please bear with me. And, if you feel so moved, go ahead a schedule a free session… you won’t be disappointed!!

I plan on using this blog site to write and display my newsletters so that visitors have a way to comment and discuss the latest topics. I’ll be covering many spiritual and “new age” subjects, but the main emphasis will always be to seek the TRUTH, regardless of what that may look like. I sincerely hope you will join me on this journey!!

NAMASTE!!

It’s 2013! Welcome to the New Year!!

Hi, All…

I’d like to start off by apologizing to my many followers… I’ve been quite remiss in posting here on a regular basis, but I promise to do better in the future, starting right now!

My last post was about my new coaching classes, so I’ll give a short update on that. It is going very well and has been very challenging and enlightening on many levels. I have much to share about the many trials, tribulations and breakthroughs I’ve experienced along the way, but I’ll leave that for my next entry. Right now, I’d like to focus on something that seems to be on everybody’s minds at this time of year: New Years resolutions.

I’ve spent much time over the last few weeks examining my life and contemplating what changes I need to make that will really make 2013 a smashing success. In the process, I’ve been faced with  the troubling reality of my past attempts: regardless of what goals I set, no matter how hard I’ve tried, and in spite of my best intentions, I’ve never been able to adhere to any of my previous lists. I had finally given up and decided to just leave things as they were and continue on as usual. But then, at 3 AM this morning, I was hit by this powerful insight: keep it simple, stupid (otherwise know as KISS)!! As I sat up, wide awake, in my bed, I realized I had to get this brilliant idea down on paper (or, rather, entered into my text editor) to prepare it for world-wide dispersal. Below, you will find the results of my efforts… enjoy, comment and share:

My 2013 resolutions:

1. I will close my eyes and sleep when I’m tired; I will open my eyes and get out of bed when I’m fully rested.
If I’m asleep when most people are awake, I’ll call it meditation; if I’m awake when most people are asleep, I’ll call it inspiration.

2. When my eyes are open, I’ll see only what I want to see; when my eyes are closed, I’ll be sleeping or meditating.

3. I’ll speak only when my mouth is open; I’ll only chew when it isn’t.
I’ll never say or write anything I don’t want to hear. I’ll never chew anything I don’t want to swallow.

4. I’ll eat when I’m hungry; I’ll stop when I’m full. I’ll only eat what is on my plate.

5. I’ll exercise whenever I’m moving; I’ll do yoga the rest of the time.

6. I’ll use my ears to listen, my nose to smell and my tongue to taste.

7. I’ll inhale when I need air; I’ll exhale soon after that.

8. I’ll use my brain to think and my mind to dream.

9. I’ll be happy when I choose to be; otherwise, I’ll be OK where I am.

10. I’ll use all my other body parts for the function they’re intended, as needed at the appropriate times.

I’ll modify, edit and re-do this list as I find new and better things that I can easily accomplish 100% of the time. Although I’m totally open to suggestions, in the end, I’ll only do what feels best for me. Feel free to apply this list to your life… I guarantee you will be successful and content with the results. Please do not ask me to explain or teach these revolutionary ideas… I’m too busy enjoying my new life to waste my time trying to get people to do what they already do.

So, there you have it… can’t get much simpler (or easier) than that. In conclusion, I’d like to wish each of you the best in the coming year and leave you with another deep, thought-provoking quote: “if you keep heading the direction you’re going, you’ll eventually get there”, or something like that. Anyway, enjoy yourself as best you can… there’s no guarantee you’ll get another chance!

See ya’ on the flip side…..

 

Quantum Life Coaching (Part 3)

 

New Insights

As the start date for my new coaching classes approach, I find myself contemplating how this new career will impact my life. I’ve been exploring  many coaching websites and trying to understand their styles and philosophies, and, at times, I’ve sampled some of their techniques. Here are some of my insights and impressions:

  •  There is an almost infinite number of choices for anyone seeking help in taking control of their lives. Although I can’t judge how efficient or effective these coaches are in getting the desired results, there certainly is no lack in variety.
  • It seems that most coaches are focusing on a “specialized area” (otherwise known as a niche), but will still work with almost anyone on any set of “challenges”, AND they assert that they ALL have  the SECRET “tool” that will positively guarantee the client’s success.
  • Even though their are many individuals already playing the coaching game, there is till plenty of room for growth, but there is no regulatory agency nor any centralized, universally recognized certifying organization…. anyone can put up a sign and claim they are a life coach.

If you take all this into consideration, it would seem to be confusing, and possibly dangerous,  for anyone contemplating entering into a working relationship with a coach. However, to counter this assertion, it seems that most clients are more than satisfied with the results they are getting and most groups who monitor the coaching sector agree that this field is healthy and expanding at a very high rate. To me, it seems to be a win-win-win career: client’s get what they want (hopefully, more than they expect), I get the personal satisfaction of assisting another in their evolution, and I create a source of income that is directly linked to how effective I am as a coach. And, oh yeah, this all helps me grow in every area of my life…. PERFECTO!!

Advice to potential clients and coaches

If you are considering life coaching, either as a career or as a source of guidance for your journey, I’ve got a few suggestions:

  • Do your homework, and listen to your intuition…. check out as many different styles and philosophies as you can; most coaches offer a free session as an introduction… try out a couple and see what “feels right” for you.
  • If you’re considering a coaching career, try a session with a coach who has completed that particular training… see how you like that style and how effective it was for you. It is probably worth hiring a coach, at least for a while, to help you make the decision.
  • Coaching is much more about heart connections than it is about defining and adhering to a set of life rules. If you don’t feel connected to a coach, try someone else. If you don’t think you can acquire the skills needed to become an effective yet loving coach, yourself, please understand that you have many gifts and talents that the world needs… don’t sell yourself short. You don’t have to be living a “perfect” life to be helpful to someone else in their journey.

What I’m excited about

 Since I made the commitment to renew my coaching career,  I can feel a “quickening” inside me… I wake each day, looking forward to new discoveries and the many synchronicities that keep happening to me. The doubts have disappeared and a quite, calm sureness has entered my mind and soul, and each moment brings the excitement of new possibilities and opportunities. I’ve been visualizing all the successes I’ll experience and my internal dialogue has been filled with affirmations and positive conversations. I have to add here that none of this has been forced or manufactured… it has happened naturally and automatically as I move along this new journey… I feel totally inspired and intimately guided by my Higher self. I have much more to share about this, but need to end this post soon… I’ll be adding more in the future as I travel along this path… thank you from the bottom of my heart for joining me and I hope you will continue to share your thoughts and comments here so we can all play, together.

 

Quantum Life Coaching (Part 2)

What’s New:

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Wow, things are moving forward very quickly, now, and it seems that the Universe is responding with timely and synchronistic help. Since I’ve made the decision to pursue a coaching career, I’ve been exposed to a number of “teachings”, mostly in the form of videos I’ve “accidentally” run across on the Net. One of the most impactful has been  an hour-long video of Tony Robbins doing an intervention with a suicidal teenage girl at one of his live events. (click here to see it… note: there are many more examples of Tony’s work listed along the right sidebar). It really brought home many of the difficulties I personally experienced, both as a child growing up in a dysfunctional family, and as a parent, where I had repeated many of the same patterns that I had internalized as a child. For some reason, it affected me very deeply, and allowed me to recognize my own deeply-rooted patterns and helped me to finally let them go. My only hope is that I can be as effective and loving as Tony is in helping others release the past and move into a more empowering future.

How I see it:

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Quantum-atom (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

This incident, along with several others that have happened recently, are in total alignment with my life philosophy and reinforces my assertion that we are creating our reality. If my beliefs are accurate, and I’m more convinced than ever that they are, then we are all having exactly the life we expect to get, although we are largely not aware of how we’re doing it. We have many deeply-rooted, subconscious beliefs and values that have combined to form an an unconscious (and emotionally charged) world-view that draws to us our real-life experiences. So, it isn’t actually a question of if this stuff really works, but more of an inquiry into how we can use those tools to create a more satisfying and empowering future. We all want a better life, but we each seem to fall short, no matter how hard we try. Maybe it’s time for change!!

What are the Steps to making Permanent Change?

First, you need to make a decision that what you’ve tried so far hasn’t worked, and that there is a possibility that there is another way, and that you are ready to at least consider it and “try it on”. Secondly, you need to get honest with yourself and be willing to become aware of those parts of yourself that are sabotaging your best plans. This step by itself will have many beneficial effects… just becoming aware of these “hidden motivators” will help to dispel them and start the healing process… of course, it make a little time to completely let them go. Thirdly, a compelling, new future needs to be created, and, through the use of visualization, affirmations, meditation and a wide variety of other transformational tools, the new “you” needs to be held in your minds eye and “energized” so that the Universe can start sending you everything you need to fully realize your dreams.

Do You need a Coach?

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For some people, reading some books or attending a seminar or workshop or watching a video, will be enough to get the results they want. But, for most of us, having a mentor or coach to assist us during this process is the only way to get the permanent changes we seek. They will help us to find and remove those roadblocks and remind of what we need to do reach our goals… they not only assist us in creating our new dreams, they keep us on track so we don’t fall back into old patterns. there are many coaches operating today but not all of them will be effective in every situation… it is important to find the one that you feel connected to and able to trust to mentor you during the upcoming challenges. I will soon be working with a personal coach who is one of the former students of the training I’ve signed up for. I’ll keep you posted here of my experiences and impressions as move along this path.

In Closing, I’d like to say… 

thank you for taking the time to read my posts… knowing that even a few people are viewing this is very helpful to me. I invite you to comment below and to participate in this conversation by subscribing to this blog. I’m not sure where this will all lead to, but it’s nice to have company along the way!

Quantum Life Coaching (Part 1)

This series is going to summarize my latest adventure into using the Internet as a vehicle for making a difference in the world and creating an income flow. Today, I registered for a course called Quantum Success Coaching, which is being offered by a trainer named Christy Whitman . I will chronicle here all my thoughts and impressions as I navigate this journey over the next year. My posts will appear under the Quantum Life Coaching category that you can find in the menu on the right edge of any page. For those who have been following my recent posts about Internet Marketing (which I’ve left on the blog), this change in direction may seem sudden and strange, but it is the direct result of two insights:

  • Although I found I could have made money using Internet Marketing, I was unable to find a product or service that I could, in good conscience, support and recommend to my friends and clients.
  • Becoming a Life Coach, especially using the techniques and tools offered by this training, will fulfill one of my lifelong dreams of being able to contribute in a meaningful and lasting way to the lives of others.

In the process of making this decision, I was faced with a tremendous amount of doubt and fear. I’ve taken many other trainings in the past and have spent a ton of money trying to prepare myself for this task, but have never been able to see it through. In retrospect, I can see that I’ve sabotaged myself each time I’ve approached the point where I could actually start applying my new skills. What is different now that makes me feel I can see this through and move forward with my dream? Well, the number one factor is that my wife is fully behind me in this and she will definitely help keep me on track, especially since she realizes how passionate I am about this, not to mention the large financial investment we had to make.

I still have some concerns about my ability to actually accomplish this, however I believe that this fits perfectly into my life philosophy: our greatest spiritual growth comes to us through our willingness to deal with the toughest challenges, especially those that allow us to contribute to others and to fulfill our most passionate dreams.

 I’m looking forward to your comments and feedback as I document this journey… PEACE!!