Newsletter 17: What Up?!

Newsletter 17 What up!

Just sending all of you an update as to what is going on right now for me, and how that will impact each of our lives. Due to a number of synchronistic events, I feel that this is a good time to contemplate where I’m going from here. I’ve really enjoyed my coaching experience, and, although I may still continue with it in the future, I’m considering some other options that might be even more exciting and personally rewarding.

As of May 25th, my coaching website will be put “on hold” for 3 months, which means it will not be accessible to anyone (including me), so if there is anything you want to do on the site (eg. explore or download some of the info available) please do it ASAP. Starting on May 15th, I will be on vacation in Germany for the next 3 months, and although I will not be taking new clients during that time, I will continue to work with my present clients through Skype and email. FYI, that address is still info.beyondbelief@gmail.com and is not affected by the “suspension”.

I want to send each of you a sincere “thank you” for your contribution to the quality and evolution of my life, and I wish you all the Love, Light, Joy, Prosperity and Peace that you so richly deserve. Whatever may come out of all this, I have nothing but warm and loving memories of all our interactions, and my intention is that my next life adventure will be a blessing to all our lives.

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ECAP Tip of the Month: One thing that has become very obvious to me, as I’ve explored the far reaches of this reality, is that each of us is living in a separate, though interconnected,
“universe”. We each have a unique and very individual perspective on who we are and how we fit into the world, and although there are countless ways for each of us to “get where we are going”, there is really only ONE place to get to! And, best of all, our success in getting “there” (here, now) is guaranteed!!
Oh, sure, we can make choices that seem to delay the inevitable “arrival”, but there is no way to NOT get there.

So, don’t worry… be happy! Enjoy the journey, and be sure to smell the roses along the way… or not!!

Contact Info: If you want to contact me, subscribe to my newsletter, or view an archive of past newsletters, and audio files of past teleconferences , you can visit my website at: BeyondBeliefCoaching.com. If you would like to read or comment on this, or past newsletters, or if you want to peruse my other brilliant offerings, you can visit my blog at Frankly Speaking. Don’t forget that this will only be available until May 25th!

Quote of the Week: “Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”

Rumi

NAMASTE!!

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Newsletter 16: Happy New Year… Already??!!

Newsletter 16: Happy New Year… Already??!!

Well, here it is, the very last day of 2015, and I’m finally going to get this veryImage result for Happy New YOUR Year Imageoverdue newsletter out. It is totally unbelievable to me how my experience of time has changed so much in the last few years… it seems just like yesterday that I was facing this same quandary last year when I was preparing my last newsletter of 2014! And, not only that, but it has been almost 6 months since my last “monthly” newsletter!!

So, Where Have I Been?

I’m not going to apologize for this unintended delay, but I will offer my best explanation. It seems that there are two main reasons for this lapse… the first is that it has nothing to do with the usual “writer’s block” that so many of us run into
when we try to compose this kind of newsletter… actually, it is just the opposite: I have too much information to choose from! And, to make things even more challenging, the “information” that I have available to write from, keeps changing and mutating as my “understanding of reality” keeps expanding.

For example, as most of you know, I have been using Greg Kuhn’s material (based on his books about quantum physics, and the effect it has on our “reality”, and often referred to as the game of “Grow a Greater You”) as the basis of my coaching “philosophy”. Of course, there are many other “tools” in my coaching toolbox (go here for more info), but this has been the “core” of how I coach my clients, most of whom have come to me by way of their interest in taking Greg’s material to the next level. However, during the course of the time that the client and I work together, we inevitably begin to wonder into different elements of “personal growth” that are way outside (beyond?) the intent and expectations inherent in that process. As I explore these “new frontiers”, the “problems” keep morphing and changing in ways that cause me to have to find new and different techniques to move past these “blocks”… it is all continually evolving! Which brings me to reason number two:

Who Knows What’s Best for You?

The second reason for the “gap” between newsletters is that I have been hesitant to move into this “new area” of the coaching relationship, even though I see it as the natural next step in the process. Since almost all my clients come to me via their interest in Greg’s material (and his implied “steps to success”), I find it rather incongruent and out of integrity to take them into areas that are obviously NOT in alignment with that “philosophy”. In other words, would it be fair and ethical to introduce my clients to this “expanded process” when they have not explicitly asked for it?

Sure, I can rationalize it by saying “it’s for their own good” (as if I knew what thatImage result for Why quantum physicistshould or could look like!) but in truth, they are the ones who need to make the request for assistance in that area, or to at least have the ability to make a conscious, informed choice about it. And there is the crux of the problem: how can they make a conscious, informed decision on what they “need” and “want” if they aren’t able to “see” the choices because of where they presently are? If, for example, you (as a mature adult) saw a child playing with a sharp knife or a pair of scissors, you would (justifiably?) remove the “perceived danger” and replace it with a suitable, safer and “more fun” toy (much to the dismay of the child!). Does this same rational carry over to a client/coach relationship? Do I have the right (or maybe even the responsibility) to make that decision for the the client?

Making Mountains from Imagined Mole Hills?

Maybe I’m making too much out of all this, but from my perspective, it seems worthy of more than a casual thought. And, obviously, depending on which way IImage result for thank you quantum physicistresolve the issue, I am also choosing the direction that my coaching practice will be going in the future. At this point, I’m simply playing it be ear, regardless of the client’s original intention for having started in this process, and I’m informing each client about their new choices as they evolve though the process. Sometime in the near future, within the next month or so, I will making a more firm decision on what direction I will moving, and I will do my best to keep you informed. If you are a former client, or a new or perspective client who wants to explore what this all may mean for you, please contact me here on my blog, or by signing up for a free intro session , or by email (see contact info below).

GRACIAS!!

In closing, I’d like to say a big “Thank You” to all my clients, and especially to Greg Kuhn, for having been in my life this past year… knowing, and interacting, withImage result for thank you quantum physicist
a each of you has enriched my life “Beyond Belief”, and there simply are no words that can express the appreciation and gratitude that I hold in my heart for the contribution each of you has made in my life… many Blessings, and much Light and Love to you all in the coming New Year!!

ADDENDUM

As you can see by now, I even blew my “end of year” deadline by a week, but I felt I had to get this one out to you. The reason for this delay is that, after I wrote the first part of this newsletter, I started having many more insights into even newer (and better?) directions to go in with my coaching business… where does it end? Or, maybe it never ends 😉

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ECAP Tip of the Month: One of the biggest pitfalls that I’ve found in this process is to keep looking at the “external evidence” for “proof” that you are making progress toward your goal. I know it may seem counter-intuitive, and maybe even counter-productive, to follow this “rule”, but it is very important to overcome the “habit” of measuring your internal “wellness” by what seems to be happening outside of you. You cannot allow yourself to be dissuaded by the “stories” that come up as an ego-response to temporary (and false) perceptions of “failure”. Stay focused on the end result, and the feelings you will experience when you “get there” , as if you already have it, now… that is what will bring you the results you want (and deserve) in the shortest time possible!!

Contact Info: If you want to contact me, set up a free and confidential intro session, subscribe to my newsletter, or view an archive of past newsletters, and audio files of past teleconferences , you can visit my website at: BeyondBeliefCoaching.com. If you would like to read or comment on this, or past newsletters, or if you want to peruse my other brilliant offerings, you can visit my blog here at Frankly Speaking.

Miscellaneous: I’m not a big proponent of all the hoopla that seems to be so prevalent around all the holidays, but I do like to use the “spirit” of this holy season to remind myself and others that we all have so much to be thankful for. I know that there is still much unneeded suffering and despair in many parts of the world, and that at times it can seem to be a hopeless situation, but I still feel that there is an “answer”, and that it all begins right here, right now, with each of us making a commitment to experience peace and joy in our own internal world. Your outer world is a reflection of your inner world!!

Quote of the Week: This New Year’s Eve you can lay the groundwork for continued growth without making any resolutions except one—to let go of the past, connect with yourself, to Wake Up, and be Present.The Enneagram Institute

NAMASTE!!

Quantum Life Coaching (Part 5)

As usual, I have to start this post with an apology for not being more consistent with my blog updates, but between summer vacation and my course work, there has been little time to share my latest insights. I’m now 9 months (about three quarters) of the way through this course, and as I head into the home stretch, I feel this is a good time to summarize what I’ve learned and how it has impacted my life.

NOW IS REALLY THE ONLY TIME WE HAVE!

I know this is not a new concept, but I feel it’s worth mentioning, here. The past is gone… it already happened and it only exists as a memory in your mind. It cannot affect your present moment unless you choose to give it life by focusing your attention on it. While it may be helpful at times to reminisce, or to recall an unsatisfactory experience (so as to avoid repeating it), spending your time regurgitating the past has very little upside. And, considering how inaccurate our perceptions are and how they can become distorted over time, it is questionable how “true” these memories actually are. In fact, you can do processes that can reframe and transform the past into something that is totally different than whatever it was you thought happened at the time of the original experience.  The future doesn’t yet exist, and although you can create a compelling future that can assist you in generating a more joyful present, you can only actually experience it in the now moment. Some of you may feel that “living in the now” sounds pretty boring and “flat”, but I can assure you that it is extremely satisfying and transformative. Which brings me to my next point:

ARE YOU THINKING YOUR THOUGHTS, OR ARE THEY THINKING YOU?

Stop for a second and contemplate this question. What is the content of your internal conversation? Is it random thoughts that just seem to appear on the screen of your mind, or are you actually engaged in a conversation that you initiated on purpose? Do you spend most of your day listening to thoughts that seem to appear out of nowhere, or are you able to deliberately choose what you want to focus on? I once heard a metaphor that went something like this: You are the captain of your ship… you have a crew that does all the work, but you must decide what each person is assigned to do. If you don’t take conscious command of the ship, the crew will do it’s best to keep things running, but the results may not be optimal. Who’s steering your ship? Let that sink in a bit, as we move on to my next premise:

LIFE IS A CONVERSATION!

It has been my experience that when I repeat a thought often enough, it becomes a belief… and beliefs, at the very least, color all my experiences, and, as I’ve come to see, can actually create all that happens in my life. The beliefs I have at any moment are the result of some sort of thought that I internalized and repeated, over and over, until it became so true for me that I can’t remember a time it wasn’t an integral part of “who I am”. Certainly, there are some beliefs that I can easily recognize as something I learned, but there are many more that run my life and yet are below my conscious awareness… they are my unconscious beliefs that have become transparent to me. When I live my life from these deep-rooted, unconscious beliefs, I become a walking jukebox… push the right combination of buttons, and I’ll play your tune. This is a reactionary way to live and it is disempowering and sterile… and, it eventually lead us to:

OUR STORY

We all have “stories” about how life “is”… they are an accumulation of past experiences, thoughts, beliefs, values, etc. Most of these “stories” originated with our parents, teachers and guardians when we were very young, and have become our world view. They run our lives and we seldom question them. If a friend asks you how things are going, you usually reply with the latest version of your “story”, repeating the same old song, in an effort to rationalize why “shit happens”, “life is hard and then you die”, “I had a run of bad luck”, “there are no decent mates around”, etc.. Of course, we get a lot of agreement form our friends, who share many of the same beliefs. And, not surprisingly, our lives seem to keep repeating those same old patterns! When I fully understood the impact this had on the quality of my life, I made a firm commitment to do something about it…  so, I decided to:

CHANGE THE CONVERSATION

Sounds simple enough, right? Change your internal conversation, and after awhile this becomes your new belief system, and your life is transformed. Well, although the process is fairly straight-forward, it does take a lot of vigilance and some effort… you will need to monitor your thoughts moment-to-moment, notice how they feel and choose something that feels better. This is the key to the Law of Attraction, and it’s sister, the Law of Deliberate Creation. Each of us has a built in Emotional GPS that warns off when we are off-track. If it feels bad, you are out of alignment with your highest good… if it feels good, you are in the flow, and life becomes a  series of empowering and fulfilling experiences. So, it goes like this: what am I feeling? Does it feel good? If not, what thought would feel better? Admittedly, this is an art and it takes consistent practice and the application of certain processes to create any meaningful change. Fortunately for you, this can be taught, and, in case you were wondering, the course I’m taking has furnished me with the tools and techniques that anyone can learn to implement. If you are curious, or want to experience a free introductory session, please contact me. (see widget at top right)

 

Quantum Life Coaching (Part 4)

Sorry for the absence… I’ve been so busy exploring and learning that I just have not had any time to sit down and write a new blog entry. Finally, today, I have the time and motivation to create my next mind-blowing dissertation. So, let’s get to it!!

WHERE I’M AT…

As of the end of March, I’ve completed 6 months of my Quantum Coach Training, which is halfway through the year-long certification program. It has been challenging, enlightening, frustrating and tremendously rewarding and, although I’ve had several bouts with self-doubt and mild “depression”, overall I’m glad I chose this path. If nothing else, I’m getting a good look at my personal and spiritual life and I’m being forced to deeply question my motivations and underlying, unconscious beliefs and values. That alone is worth the price of the tuition!

As for the course itself, we’ve just completed the Business Building module and I’m joyfully overwhelmed with all the possibilities that have been presented… I’ve discovered that there is an endless supply of ways to create abundance in my life and I’m now dealing with the task of becoming more clear about which direction to focus on. I feel like a child in a candy store !

Reconciling different philosophies

Over the years, I’ve studied many different “spiritual philosophies” (you can find some of what I mean by perusing the “About Me” link) but I’ve recently narrowed my focus down to 3 main “categories”: A Course in Miracles, Eckhart Tolle (Present in the Now) and, of course, The Law of Attraction (as presented by Ester Hicks/Abraham). If you are unfamiliar with any of these, or you would like to explore them further, just do a Google search and you’ll find tons of info. For me to embrace any form of coaching modality, I had to reconcile these seemingly divergent spiritual paths because I felt that my coaching sessions  needed to be congruent with my spiritual ideals… I couldn’t use what I didn’t believe in!

English: Cover of ACIM Third Edition

The whole story on how I was able to see the “common thread” within these different philosophies is quite lengthy and I’ll probably write a separate post (or maybe a book!) about it, but for now I’ll just give a short synopsis. A  Course in Miracles (ACIM) basically proposes that we are all part of the Mind of God, and, although we have actually never left our Home, we are “asleep” and “dreaming” the reality we call “this life”. The process of returning to the awareness of our True Self is both highly personalized and yet universal: we realize what we “see” is not real, we become willing to let it go and we ask (the Holy Spirit, Jesus, whatever works for you) to heal our mind by removing the blocks we’ve made to keep God’s Love out of our awareness.

A New Earth

Eckhart Tolle, while not being opposed to what ACIM asserts, has a different technique for getting “there”: by meditating and non-judgmentally noticing what is going on inside, both as internal chatter and physical sensation, and just letting go of it, we can attain a state of PRESENCE. This Presence is our True Self, the Awareness that is conscious of who we think we are. That Awareness has become trapped into believing that the body, and all it’s experiences, is itself. Our path to true Freedom and Joy then becomes the task of realizing that all this “stuff” is just a distraction, and as we allow ourselves to move inward, we will discover what has always been there… our True Self as Pure Awareness. We then take that mind-set into our daily lives and begin to experience our world as a place endless beauty, peace, abundance and joy. Sounds simple enough, right? LOL

Now, for the tricky part. These first two ideologies were fairly easy to “mash together”, but the Law of Attraction proved to be more daunting. When I signed up for this coaching training, I did so because I expected some new leading-edge mind-blowing  life-altering “techniques” that would allow me to make a huge impact in my client’s life. I was quite shocked and disappointed when I realized that much of the material was actually stuff I had studied 20-30 years ago and had “moved past”. Although I almost withdrew from the course, I decided to stick with it and see where it took me… and, I’m glad I did!  The main techniques used in the course are based on the material channeled by Ester Hicks from a non-physical being named Abraham. It is loosely called the Law of Attraction (that which we hold in our “vibration” will manifest in our reality), but includes a number of other “laws”, the other central tenets being the Law of Deliberate Creation (we can choose what we get by deliberately changing our thoughts and emotions) and the Law of Allowing (we don’t need to struggle to get what we want… we just need to let the Universe bring it to us).

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The main reason I had discarded the LOA  as a meaningful spiritual path 20 years ago was because it seemed to be so “egocentric”, meaning that they were always saying “what do you want?” and the workshops were filled with discussions about how to be happy by getting all the things that would satisfy you. Anyone who has been on a spiritual quest for any amount of time quickly realizes that true happiness can’t possibly come from manipulating the external situation and that the pursuit of material gain only leads to more pain and suffering. I have to note here that the release of the DVD “The Secret” just further confirmed to me that this path was not for me. However, as I studied the recent books, CDs, meditations and other “Abe stuff”, I began to notice a shift in what was being taught: the emphasis was now on connecting to SOURCE to discover what your desires and wants are. Again, I’m not going to go into all the ways this is being promoted, but I feel this is a significant point. In fact, it now seems that all three of these philosophies are pointing to the same reference point for living a truly happy and fulfilling life while playing fully in the physical universe: a connection to your True Self, Source, Awareness, Higher Self, Truth, God, or whatever else you want to call IT… it’s all good!

IN CONCLUSION…

The Meaning Of Life Is To Be Happy

I’d like to end this with a little discussion about TRUTH… in this world, truth is a relative thing… everyone believes they have the “answer” and feels they know the “truth”, but, in actuality, all we can ever have is an opinion based on our beliefs. Almost all the pain and suffering in this world is brought on by people who confuse beliefs with TRUTH. It is a function of the brain (not the MIND) to organize your life so you feel somewhat safe in the chaos that surrounds us. It does this by drawing conclusions and making judgements about everything it experiences… from this it forms a world-view that determines each individual’s way of dealing with life situations… and then it goes out and finds evidence that reinforces its point-of-view and tries to prove it is “right” (and you are “wrong”, of course). I don’t care how many “facts” nor how much knowledge you can accumulate about any subject, you will never find true safety, peace or happiness from that endeavor. Being happy and feeling fulfilled is a conscious choice we can make every moment of the day… it doesn’t depend on external circumstances or the condition of the body… it is totally self-contained and is experienced by choosing to be conscious of who you really are… Pure Awareness. I can’t explain or prove it to you… the only way to KNOW it is to experience IT, and that is something I can help you with. I’m still offering several hours of free coaching sessions to anyone who is interested, although my time-slots are filling pretty fast. Obviously, this is not for everyone, but if you feel connected in any way to what I’ve said here, please contact me on FB, twitter, email (hover over my picture on the right side of the home page) or post a comment below.

Best wishes and many blessings… Live long and Prosper!!

Pleasure/Happiness

Following is a little something I wrote a while ago… it’s not finished and will need some “tidying up”, but I felt I needed to get something up on here….

I submit that GREED is not only unpatriotic, it is anti-human… as the rest of the undeveloped world enters the consumer market and accepts Greed as their god, we are ALL doomed… there just is not enough resources available on this planet to support this many people!!

I feel this problem has sprouted from a basic confusion about two human values: PLEASURE and HAPPINESS!
Pleasure is temporary, fleeting, self-centered, and ultimately leaves one feeling empty and unsatisfied. It leaves one chasing after more “stuff” (money, clothes, car, bigger house, etc.) and into a never-ending spiral of unsatisfied “needs”… it’s like an addict having to have a bigger fix just to feel “normal”….
Happiness, on the other hand, brings long-lasting satisfaction and contentment and may even bring about JOY… the problem is you can’t buy it or “get it” in any of the  “usual” ways… it is a state of mind that is CREATED and is always available in every situation, at any time, wherever you may be!!
Now, I’m the first to admit that this all seems rather airy-fairy, but I assure you, it is real and obtainable… I’m not going to go into all the techniques that allow one to acquire this state of mind, but, I can guarantee you that, if you are fully interested in finding true happiness, you will find all the resources you need right inside yourself!!