And, so, the Journey begins…
As I stated in my Newsletter Intro, my intention is to assist you in participating in a journey to a place that will excite, empower and fulfill you. As in any journey, there are essential steps that need to be taken to ensure success: a starting point, a destination, a plan to get there and a way to tell if you’re on course. Naturally, you will need to “move” in order to get there, but what’s really cool about this trip is that, as soon as you start the process, you’ll be on the way. With that in mind, let’s look at the first step:
Where are you now?
This may seem to be an obvious or unnecessary question to many people, but I believe it is one of the most crucial steps in any successful journey. Do you really know where you are right now? Have you ever stopped to ask that question at a very deep level? Most of us would simply look around and say: “well, I’m right here! I’m in my living room, in front of the computer, reading this weird stuff, and wondering where this is taking me!”. While, on the surface, that may seem to be a fairly accurate observation, it only addresses the obvious and doesn’t get to the root of the problem. To better understand what we’re searching for, it will help to ask yourself a few thought-provoking questions. (NOTE: to get the most out of this exercise and the subsequent articles in this series, it will be very helpful to actually write down the answers to these questions. I suggest keeping a journal):
What is your present physical condition? Are you comfortable? Is there any pain or discomfort in your body? Where is it and how severe is it? Do you feel that the condition causing the pain or discomfort is under control? On a scale of 1-10, what would you say your overall physical condition is? What would it feel like to have your body be just the way you want it? What beliefs would a person have to have in order to create such a situation? Do you feel guilty or blame yourself for any of it, or are you just a victim of circumstances?
These questions are certainly not an exhaustive list, and barely scratch the surface, yet they are a good starting point. The goal of this exercise is to take the time to look more deeply and honestly into who and what you are right now. So far, I’ve just begun to explore the physical aspect of “where am I, now”… Let’s explore what else needs to be included in this initial, yet crucial, step…
What else is there?
Each of us, in our here and now, is a sum total of a number of aspects, including, but not limited to: physical/health, mental, spiritual/religion, career/job/money, relationships, etc. These aspects are created, controlled and experienced through our beliefs, values, thoughts and behaviors. Understanding and accepting how this all constitutes the YOU that exists at this moment, is of the utmost importance in any attempt to move beyond your present state of being. In fact, coming to terms with all of this will ultimately ease much of your present suffering… you can’t let go of what you don’t know you are holding onto!
I’m not saying that you are a “bad person”, or that you need to completely start over… far from it; you simply need to take an honest self-assessment, choose which aspects you’d like to keep and learn how to let go of those things that are preventing you from becoming the person you want to be. We’ll explore all of that as we advance on this journey, but for now, I want to leave you with something that will actually move you closer to your desired outcome.
Make a commitment, right now, to take the first steps toward creating a life that will really turn you on… you know, that “I can’t wait to get out of bed in the morning” feeling that most of us had when we were kids. That desire has never left you, despite the challenges you seem to face in your life, today. We all get caught up in the stress and complications of daily living, but deep inside each of us is that child who still knows how to live authentically and wants to play full-out, every moment of every day. I promise you that, no matter what your circumstances are at this particular moment, YOU can have that kind of enthusiasm and excitement back in your life again! And, no, I don’t have a magic wand or a secret formula… all I have is exactly what you already have: the ability to see things as they are, and a willingness to change. Please… stop making excuses for why you can’t have, be, or do, as you would like to, and begin to open your mind to the possibility that you not only CAN “have it all”, but furthermore, it needn’t be a painful struggle. YOU get to decide what you want, and YOU get to fulfill your new dreams and YOU get to create a life that empowers, enlivens and fulfills YOU, starting right NOW!!
That all sounds great, but HOW?
Are you starting to dream, even just a little bit? Do you at least wonder if this is possible? Do you feel a little excited? Wherever you are with all this, please stop a moment and take that first step… hell, it doesn’t cost you anything except letting go of some old, limiting beliefs. Just stop believing in the story you’ve been telling yourself and open up to this new possibility. You can always return to your old beliefs if you feel this isn’t working for you.. they will still be there if you decide to go back. So, what do you have to lose? What will it cost you to “try it on”?? To me, even a minimal improvement is worth the tiny investment that is being asked.
The Bottom Line:
Okay, so what exactly am I asking you to do? As I said earlier, start a journal or notebook dedicated to this experiment. Name it something that reflects what you’d like to accomplish. Maybe: “My New Life”, “I Can Do it”, “The Journey to My Dreams”… whatever feels right for you. You can also create a text file using any word processor. Start taking a little time each day, preferably in the morning, and begin to describe, in as much detail as possible, who and what you are at this moment. Write about as many aspects of your life as you feel comfortable with and only go as long as it feels good. Some of this might be a little confronting, so I’m not saying it will all be fun, but if you can stay with it through these periods, the rewards will far outweigh the efforts. As always, you can visit my blog, Frankly Speaking, where you can comment and share your thoughts, insights and questions. Or, if you’d really like to accelerate the process, you can always visit my website, Beyond Belief Coaching, and schedule a free sample coaching session. My next weekly installment will assist you in fleshing this out and taking the next step toward creating the future of your dreams. NAMASTE!!